PARENT TIPS - FROM OUR CATHOLIC CARE COUNSELLOR   

Building Self-Esteem 

Self-esteem is a fundamental aspect of emotional well-being that influences how individuals view themselves and interact with the world. When children have healthy self-esteem, they are more likely to feel confident in their abilities, try new things, and bounce back from mistakes. It helps individuals recognise their worth, believe in their abilities, and feel confident in expressing themselves. This foundation supports their learning, friendships, and emotional resilience. On the other hand, low self-esteem in children can lead to feelings of insecurity, withdrawal, and difficulty coping with challenges. Supporting and encouraging children in positive ways helps build their self-esteem, setting them up for long-term success and wellbeing.

Here are some tips to help your child build self-esteem:

Offer Genuine Praise – Focus on effort and improvement rather than just outcomes. Saying things like, “You worked really hard on that!” encourages persistence and confidence.

Encourage Independence – Let children try things on their own, even if they make mistakes. Learning through experience builds competence and self-belief.

Example: Let your child pack their own school bag or make a simple lunch. If they forget something, talk it through calmly rather than scolding—this teaches responsibility without shame.

Celebrate Strengths – Help your child discover and use their unique talents and interests, whether in art, sport, music, or problem-solving.

Be a Positive Role Model – Show self-respect and confidence in your own actions. Children often mirror the attitudes and behaviours of their parents.

Listen and Validate Feelings – Make sure your child feels heard and supported. Acknowledge their emotions and help them work through challenges without judgment.

Example: If your child says, “I’m not good at sport,” you might respond with, “It sounds like today was hard. I know you’re still learning, and that’s okay. What part did you enjoy?”

Set Realistic Expectations – Encourage your child to do their best, but avoid putting pressure on them to be perfect. Help them see that mistakes are a normal part of learning.

Create a Safe and Loving Environment – A home filled with warmth, encouragement, and unconditional love helps children feel secure and valued.

Example: Use bedtime as a moment to connect: “I’m proud of you today. I noticed how kind you were to your friend when they were upset.”

Sara Ljuboja

School Counsellor