Understanding and Coping with Sadness 

It's okay to feel sad sometimes, and it's important to know that these feelings are a natural part of life. Let your child know that it's okay to cry or feel upset, and that everyone experiences sadness at some point. Encourage them to talk about their feelings, whether it’s through words, art, or even just quiet time. Reassure them that sadness doesn’t last forever, and with time, they will feel better. Help them focus on the things that bring comfort, like talking to someone they trust or doing something they enjoy. Every child copes with sadness in their own way, so be patient and open as you help them work through their feelings. Let them know you're there for them, no matter what.

Here are some tips on helping your child cope with sadness:

Acknowledge their feelings: Let your child know that it’s okay to feel sad and that their emotions are valid. Avoid dismissing their feelings with phrases like “don’t cry” or “it’s not a big deal.”

Listen actively: Sometimes, kids just need someone to listen. Encourage them to express how they feel and give them your full attention without interrupting.

Offer comfort and reassurance: Gently remind them that it’s okay to feel upset and that these feelings won’t last forever. Reassure them that you are there to support them.

Create a safe space: Encourage your child to talk in a calm, quiet environment where they feel safe to express their emotions without judgment.

Validate their emotions: Let them know that their feelings are normal, and everyone experiences sadness. This helps them feel understood and less alone in their emotions.

Encourage healthy coping mechanisms: Help your child find ways to manage their sadness, like drawing, writing, or taking deep breaths. Offer a variety of options and let them choose what works best.

Model emotional expression: Show your child that it’s okay for adults to feel sad sometimes and demonstrate healthy ways of dealing with emotions.

Focus on small positives: Gently remind them of things that bring comfort, whether it’s spending time with a favourite toy, watching a comforting movie, or doing something they enjoy.

Offer physical comfort: Sometimes, a hug or a gentle touch can help reassure your child and provide comfort when they’re feeling down.

Be patient: Understand that it may take time for your child to feel better. Avoid rushing them to “get over it” and give them the space they need to process their emotions at their own pace.

Sara Ljuboja
School Counsellor